I had originally intended that this entire series be one post. 10 weeks later and I’m still writing about it. Here are the last 7 steps in case you need to be caught up.
step 01 // narrow your playing field
step 02 // don’t victimize yourself
step 03 // make yourself a priority
step o4 // get away
step 05 // put down your phone
step 06 // break routine
step 07 // go to church
step 09 // wait
step 08 // share the care
In my opinion, this step seemss fairly obvious. We live in a society were women go to work and sometimes men stay home with the kids. It isn’t revolutionary to say, “hey parents, share the responsibility for caring for your children”. But, what I would like to propose is that sharing in the care of your children goes beyond the mother and/or father.
In October of 2013, my family and I moved in with my parents. We are moving to Toronto at the end of this summer and are trying to save some $$$ before the big transition. Moving back in with your parents can be awkward and weird (I’m being nice here), but overall the experience has been immensely positive. My parents have had the opportunity to spend loads of quality time with Willow. I watch how much she loves her grandparents and her uncle and how she gains new perspectives and experiences by hanging out with them frequently. But that’s besides the point, right? The point is that having this shared experience in raising our child takes a huge burden off our backs. It feels right, like this is the way it always should have been.
Yes, I am suggesting that living together with other people is a great thing to do. “That’s weird!” you say? No, way to live. Ok, yes, living with other people may be complicated at times, ruining our idea of individuality, but in my experience of living with other people and I believe it is the best way to live. It’s a risk to take and people who are married or have children are often put off by the idea due to our societal ideas of the isolated, nuclear family. I highly encourage you give it a try anyway.
If you still believe that having a baby is going to ruin your life, sharing the parenting role with other family members, close friends and the like, will not only make your life exponentially better, it is really good for your baby. And taking it as far as sharing your home is really the cherry on top.