Parenthood

Step 05 // How to Keep a Baby from Ruining Your Life

step 01 // narrow your playing field

step 02 // don’t victimize yourself

step 03 // make yourself a priority

step o4 // get away

step 05 // put down your phone

step 06 // break routine

step 07 // go to church

step 08 // share the care

step 09 // wait

step 05 // put down your phone
This is a hard one for me. I’m around children a lot.  I have had many an adult conversation in my head.  I have been known –well actually, this is kind of a secret– to go for walks, pushing a stroller, and have a pretend adult conversation OUT LOUD!  Yes, I talk to myself.  Hand gestures and all.   You can see why staying up on social media or texting gives me a false sense of connection with my adult peers.  But that’s just it. It’s a FALSE sense of connection.
Listen, I am not against technology or social media or the sort.  But I am very convinced that the interactions we have through the medium of our phone or computer are both idealized and lacking.  They are idealized because, someone like me, who commits many an awkward, social faux pas, can edit and construct their words to fit an identity they wish they had, an idealized self.  They are lacking in that there is a key piece missing from the interaction, a human piece.  There is no one there to touch or show empathy or laugh loudly at what you’re saying.  It’s not the real thing and it is not good enough.  Social media interactions should never replace human interactions.  And that is what happening when you are constantly on your phone around your children.
I cannot tell you how many times I have missed or ignored something my daughter has done because I was glued to my phone. When I am on my phone my entire mentality is egocentric.  When the phone is off, this goes away.  So a disruption from a baby or loved one while consumed by one’s phone is a disturbance, while a disruption from the same while one is free from their phone is not a disturbance, and quite possibly a joy. Do you catch my point?  If you are always consumed with your phone, in a state of self absorption, your baby will always be disturbing you– or should I say, ruining your life. I won’t even get into what kind or behaviors and habits this is teaching a baby.
Listen, maybe I am the only one who needs to hear this and therefore should take a little electronics fast– but I am not convinced that I am the only one.  This is an issue for our entire culture, regardless or your parental status.  It’s just that this culture doesn’t leave much room or time or imagination for children.  It should really come as no shock that the idea that “children will ruin our lives” is a real thought present day.  Moral?  If you don’t want a baby to ruin your life, limit your screen time.  You will discover a world of life around you that you never noticed.  You’ll feel like John Smith meeting Pocahontas.  And you’ll sing songs and talk to raccoons.  Maybe even paint a picture with all the colors of the wind.
Ok, another hint I need to spend more time with adults.
xoxo
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