It’s easy to blame your baby for the fact that you haven’t showered or changed your clothes for the past week. Now, the first few months are tough, so give yourself some slack. That being said, playing the victim is only going to keep you in the exact place you don’t want to be, filling you with resentment in the meantime. It is not your baby’s fault that you neglected your friends, put on 50 pounds, stopped doing that thing you loved. I know it’s hard, especially if you are parenting alone, but you cannot blame your circumstances for your actions. Take responsibility and own your feelings. You feel frustrated? Then really feel that frustration as hard as you can and then let it go. If you can learn to do this now, you will be a much happier, healthier person in the long run, and so will your child.